Accidental Ambivalence

Off the Cuff

You know, if you've read much of what I write, that I am a fan of making Grand Plans. I always have an action plan for something in my life: cleaning, moving, organizing my closet, improving my attitude. I've been friends with those who are fans of making elaborate plans before going out for the night or the weekend. The last twenty-first birthday celebration I attended had been planned a full month in advance, all the way down to the shot book and the flashing tiara the birthday girl wore.

Clearly, I enjoy planning things. But I'm learning, whether it's as I get older or as I grow or as I find more interesting people to spend time with, that often the best evenings come with the least plans. Last night, I had tentative plans to spend time with Spark, her boyfriend, and her friend from out of town. When I learned that the plan was pizza and hard cider and playing Wii in their enormous living room, I was more than pleased. I got to wear comfortable clothes (jeans and a thermal), I didn't have to try hard to be pretty (because the only boy present lives in Spark's bed), I didn't have to be nice to people that I don't actually like, and I got to play with a Wii!

That last bit is funnier if you read it aloud.

It was honestly a fabulous night, and it makes me think that making plans is highly overrated and often ends in disappointment. Since my only expectation was a chance to hang out with Spark and friends - which I did - my expectations were exceeded by the fun that we had.

I think that's what some would call "gaining perspective." Good for me.

Labels: everyday musings, personal growth

posted by nicalyse @ 1:18 PM